Does Our Holiday Schedule Trump Our Regular Visitation Schedule?

Short answer, yes. It is not uncommon for co-parents to get confused or have questions regarding the holiday schedule and how it is implemented. Everyone’s visitation and holiday schedule is different and there are different terms that may apply in each case. Make sure that you read through your court order to determine how your holiday schedule impacts your regular visitation schedule. The examples below may not be exactly what your court order is, however, it is a common example of how the holiday schedule impacts a regular visitation schedule. For demonstration purposes, let’s assume that two parents have the following regular visitation schedule. -Father has every Monday and Tuesday with the exchange taking place on Wednesday morning at school. -Mother has every Wednesday and Thursday with exchanges taking place on Friday mornings at school. -The parents alternate every other weekend which is Friday AM through Monday AM. Note: It is best to have set times...

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TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE CO-PARENTING

Co-parenting can be hard, however, if you and your co-parent can work to put aside the reasons you are no longer together, you can start to work on your new relationship that you have as co-parents. Smooth and effective co-parenting may not happen overnight, however, it is important to start out immediately after separation with co-parenting as best as you can. The separation of parents is hard for children and one way to make the transition from an intact family to a split family a little smoother is for the parents to work together for the best interests of the children. TIP 1: COMMUNICATE WITH THE OTHER PARENT IN A POLITE MANNER. There should be no cursing in your communications, and they should not be rude in nature. Set more of a business like tone. Don’t demand, but rather make requests. TIP 2: RESPOND TO COMMUNICATIONS IN A TIMELY MANNER. Don’t take days...

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EVERYONE WANTS THE CHILDREN FOR THE HOLIDAYS

It can be difficult sharing the children’s time with your ex whether the two of you co-parent well or not so well.  The more strained the co-parenting relationship the more difficult it can be.  Everyone wants to spend the holidays with their children.  The hard truth though, is that after you and your ex separate most parents have to share the holidays.  What makes this reality easier for all involved, are parents that can co-parent with their ex, and having a solid holiday schedule. HAVE A CLEAR HOLIDAY SCHEDULE One of the biggest issues of contention is who has the children when, and for how long.  Although some co-parents can work well together with a loose schedule, many cannot.  A schedule like “Mother to have children Christmas Eve and Father to have them Christmas Day” may lead to conflict come Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.  This would be considered a loose...

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